Jonathan and I have reached a new stage in our relationship.
Last week, it seemed as if Jonathan had done nothing but play Angry Birds all day. I was becoming frustrated at his increasing game play and decreasing attention to girlfriend. At one point I exclaimed, "If you don't stop playing Angry Birds, I'm going to BECOME an Angry Bird!"
At that point I realized: we are now past the honeymoon stage.
Sometimes he plays Angry Birds too much, gets frustrated when I don't say please, and scowls at my barrage of nags. In return, I have become a bit spoiled and needy, I've started to fight submission with a fiery vengeance, and I do things that he just does not like.
In short: we're showing our faults. Instead of being on our best behavior, we've begun to "take off the make-up" and see the ugly side of each other.
I, for one, LOVE this stage in a relationship. (Crazy, huh?) We might be having a few more spats than usual, but we're also learning to compromise. We're learning to discuss things before blowing up. We're learning what not to do. We're fighting through our differences and learning to love each other DESPITE and BECAUSE of them.
I call this the "strengthening" stage of a relationship. This is where most couples will end. They realize that it's not all about googly eyes and smooches. This is the 'make it or break it' point. We decide if we can continue to make it...even with each other's downfalls.
I know what you might be thinking. "Why are you posting this in public? You just ran your boyfriend's name in the mud. You can't tell other people about your boyfriend's faults!" To that, I have 2 things to reply. 1. I will NEVER post ANYTHING about Jonathan without his approval first. If this appears on my blog, he read it first and agreed. 2. No couple is perfect. I think if parents never disagree in front of their children, they are not teaching them what relationships are really like. Every relationship has issues, and instead of suppressing them, I think we should acknowledge them and learn how to best find a solution.
What have I learned through this so far? I love Jonathan more. I love his stubbornness. I love working out arguments. I love becoming closer to God with him. I love him when he plays Angry Birds too much. He is still the best man I've ever known and I still want to spend as much of my life with him as possible. And I still thank God for him everyday.
Even if sometimes we are a couple of Angry Birds.
Thursday, August 4, 2011
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The Angry Birds
Jonathan and I have reached a new stage in our relationship.
Last week, it seemed as if Jonathan had done nothing but play Angry Birds all day. I was becoming frustrated at his increasing game play and decreasing attention to girlfriend. At one point I exclaimed, "If you don't stop playing Angry Birds, I'm going to BECOME an Angry Bird!"
At that point I realized: we are now past the honeymoon stage.
Sometimes he plays Angry Birds too much, gets frustrated when I don't say please, and scowls at my barrage of nags. In return, I have become a bit spoiled and needy, I've started to fight submission with a fiery vengeance, and I do things that he just does not like.
In short: we're showing our faults. Instead of being on our best behavior, we've begun to "take off the make-up" and see the ugly side of each other.
I, for one, LOVE this stage in a relationship. (Crazy, huh?) We might be having a few more spats than usual, but we're also learning to compromise. We're learning to discuss things before blowing up. We're learning what not to do. We're fighting through our differences and learning to love each other DESPITE and BECAUSE of them.
I call this the "strengthening" stage of a relationship. This is where most couples will end. They realize that it's not all about googly eyes and smooches. This is the 'make it or break it' point. We decide if we can continue to make it...even with each other's downfalls.
I know what you might be thinking. "Why are you posting this in public? You just ran your boyfriend's name in the mud. You can't tell other people about your boyfriend's faults!" To that, I have 2 things to reply. 1. I will NEVER post ANYTHING about Jonathan without his approval first. If this appears on my blog, he read it first and agreed. 2. No couple is perfect. I think if parents never disagree in front of their children, they are not teaching them what relationships are really like. Every relationship has issues, and instead of suppressing them, I think we should acknowledge them and learn how to best find a solution.
What have I learned through this so far? I love Jonathan more. I love his stubbornness. I love working out arguments. I love becoming closer to God with him. I love him when he plays Angry Birds too much. He is still the best man I've ever known and I still want to spend as much of my life with him as possible. And I still thank God for him everyday.
Even if sometimes we are a couple of Angry Birds.
Last week, it seemed as if Jonathan had done nothing but play Angry Birds all day. I was becoming frustrated at his increasing game play and decreasing attention to girlfriend. At one point I exclaimed, "If you don't stop playing Angry Birds, I'm going to BECOME an Angry Bird!"
At that point I realized: we are now past the honeymoon stage.
Sometimes he plays Angry Birds too much, gets frustrated when I don't say please, and scowls at my barrage of nags. In return, I have become a bit spoiled and needy, I've started to fight submission with a fiery vengeance, and I do things that he just does not like.
In short: we're showing our faults. Instead of being on our best behavior, we've begun to "take off the make-up" and see the ugly side of each other.
I, for one, LOVE this stage in a relationship. (Crazy, huh?) We might be having a few more spats than usual, but we're also learning to compromise. We're learning to discuss things before blowing up. We're learning what not to do. We're fighting through our differences and learning to love each other DESPITE and BECAUSE of them.
I call this the "strengthening" stage of a relationship. This is where most couples will end. They realize that it's not all about googly eyes and smooches. This is the 'make it or break it' point. We decide if we can continue to make it...even with each other's downfalls.
I know what you might be thinking. "Why are you posting this in public? You just ran your boyfriend's name in the mud. You can't tell other people about your boyfriend's faults!" To that, I have 2 things to reply. 1. I will NEVER post ANYTHING about Jonathan without his approval first. If this appears on my blog, he read it first and agreed. 2. No couple is perfect. I think if parents never disagree in front of their children, they are not teaching them what relationships are really like. Every relationship has issues, and instead of suppressing them, I think we should acknowledge them and learn how to best find a solution.
What have I learned through this so far? I love Jonathan more. I love his stubbornness. I love working out arguments. I love becoming closer to God with him. I love him when he plays Angry Birds too much. He is still the best man I've ever known and I still want to spend as much of my life with him as possible. And I still thank God for him everyday.
Even if sometimes we are a couple of Angry Birds.
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